When it comes to getting over a tough breakup, you have a number of options. You could drown your sadness in a bottle while you look for a rebound fling. You could isolate yourself, never leaving your bed, sustaining yourself on ice cream and movies.
But neither of these possibilities are ideal — both leave you feeling powerless. Fortunately, there is a better way. Seeking out healthy coping skills will result in the positive, lasting feelings that you desire.
Want to get over a breakup in a healthy way? Here’s how:
1. Feel Something
Breakups are challenging. Whether the relationship was brief or long-term, the end of a partnership is a significant loss. Losses make people feel sad, angry, confused, bitter and jealous. These feelings are neither good nor bad; they are only feelings. Allow yourself to gain awareness and acceptance for whatever feeling or set of feelings you are experiencing. Do not judge or analyze them. You only need to feel them.
Acknowledging feelings is always healthy. Don’t deny your feelings or make them something else. Losses need to be grieved and processed effectively to limit the impact. When you ignore your feelings or try to distract yourself from them, the need to grieve does not vanish. It only grows. It will need to be addressed eventually — sooner is always better than later.