“Do as I Say, Not as I Do” Just Won’t Cut It
Much of parenting involves active teaching. When our kids ask us a question, we use it as a learning opportunity to verbally explain the answer to them.
When they misbehave, we sit them down and have a conversation with them about why what they did wasn’t appropriate. When they are older, we bring up important topics with them to make sure they are getting the right information about things such as puberty or sex.
We hope that our kids absorb this information and that it helps them grow in a positive manner. But what we might not realize, is how much what we as parents do impacts their development as well.
If we aren’t good examples for our children, practicing what we preach, we might be undoing many of the important lessons we thought we were teaching our kids. Here are some of the ways you might be setting a bad example for your kids without even knowing it.
1. Screen Addiction
Constantly checking your phone or always having the TV on sends a negative message to your kids. If they have to compete with one of the screens in your life for attention, they begin to believe you think those tiny pixels are more important than they are.
Staying connected is one thing, but when it starts distracting you from the important things in your life, like your children or other responsibilities, it has become a problem. Unintentionally, you are teaching your children that being distracted when others are around is okay, and that technology is of greater importance than giving someone your undivided attention.